Dear casa III families,
I hope all of you had a wonderful holiday surrounded by your loved ones! We certainly had a beautiful time during our thanksgiving feast. The children enjoyed so much having lunch family-style, and the fact that each child contributed to all the details of preparing the meal made it even more special for them! Thank you so much for providing the items needed to make it happen.
This month we also welcomed a new friend into our casa. Eira recently moved up from the toddler community, and we feel so fortunate to have her as part of the casa III community!
I would like to address a subject that usually comes up when talking to parents. Parents sometimes ask me, “When I ask my child 'what you did today?' The answer is 'hummmm…nothing'". Believe me, your child does a lot throughout the day, but your child’s accomplishments cannot often be held in the hand or seen with the eye. Their day is so busy that it might be difficult for them to answer such a “broad” question. They may need a few reminders to help them recall some more specific experiences. Young children are in the present moment most of the time. They may not want to recall details about their day, but just want to enjoy being with you again.
It is important to keep in mind that a child’s most important work is not always related to a specific material from a shelf. Creating and maintaining relationships, acting out of kindness, being patient and developing self-control, taking care of oneself and the environment...all of these require a lot of effort and energy. The children in our casa are always building their character and trying to process, understand and internalize the world around them, but they may not always be able to verbalize it in the same way that we adults are able. They are doing so much challenging work, but they do not yet see their actions and successes as separate from themselves. Dr. Maria Montessori strongly believed that the child reveals himself through his work, not through his tangible successes and accomplishments. Every experience a child has is internalized and becomes a part of his very being. She said “The things he sees are not just remembered; they form a part of his soul.” (The Absorbent Mind)
So please, try not to worry when your child tells you he or she did nothing all day, because by nothing, they might mean everything!
Here are some questions you can ask your children to hopefully get some more information about their day. Please try not to overwhelm them by asking too many questions at once!
· What was the best part of your day?
· What work did you take from the shelf today?
· Did you eat snack today? Who did you eat with?
· Did you wear an apron today?
· Did you help someone today? Did someone help you? How did you feel?
· Did you sing a song? Do you remember some words?
· Did you go outside today? What did you do there?
· Did you help with a responsibility? (Activities children independently choose to beautify our environment).
Sharon, Marie, Willow & Maria